In the often interminable wait for a child, I was often told to "just relax".
Now that I have a child, I find that my worry goes overtime.
What if she falls and bumps her head and I lose her.
What if someone shoots up her daycare?
I didn't know that the worry I felt everyday of the wait would multiply by a factor of ten once I got her.
I wouldn't change it--I just wish I knew how better to live with it.