Monday, March 9, 2015

Microblog Monday: Musings About My Daughter's Mother

Dear China Mommy, 

That's what we call you. I speak of you to our daughter as she realizes that she grew in your tummy not mine. I speak of you with affection, gentleness, and a debt that I will never be able to repay. 

Our daughter is nearing her third birthday. She is speaking English, but we plan to teach her Mandarin. Maybe we'll teach her enough so she can read the note you left her in Mandarin--not English. 

Thank you for that note. Thank you for telling us her birthday and the time she was born. She will grow up knowing that it is the correct date. 

Thank you for the great care you took in making certain she was found. 

She is getting more beautiful every day. You must be so beautiful--and our daughter looks like you. 

She is intelligent and quick. She has some agility and athletic ability--that's definitely your genes--not our environment! She loves to dance. Her voice is starting to be able to find and stay on pitch--I'm assured that it is early for that. Can you sing? Did you sing to her when she was inside you? Did you sing to her those five days between when she was born and when you made sure she would be found?

She doesn't ask many questions about you--yet. We will try--I promise we will try--to answer them to the best of our abilities. 

I know this. If you hadn't wanted her to be born--she wouldn't have been. We love you for her. We do. I think of you as I rock her to sleep, her head cuddled on my breast. It is my heart that she hears now-and you will always be in our hearts. So, in her own way, she is listening to the heartbeats of her mothers. 

May Gd bless you and keep you. 
Your daughter's mother. 



12 comments:

  1. Wow this is so beautiful. Thank you for sharing :)

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  2. Wow this is so beautiful. Thank you for sharing :)

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  3. what a beautiful letter. Thanks for the glimpse into your heart.

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  5. This was beautiful! Your daughter is one lucky little girl. Thanks for sharing this, truly a gift.

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  6. It truly means the world to me as a birth mom to read this and I thank you for sharing. I was always assured that my son knew about me and that I was referred to with love and gratitude, but it is still reassuring to get affirmations from other adoptive families, like yours. Thank you.

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  7. This is a beautiful post. Just, wow.

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  8. Okay, I was getting weepy reading this, but this put me over the edge: "It is my heart that she hears now-and you will always be in our hearts. So, in her own way, she is listening to the heartbeats of her mothers."

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  9. That is the most beautiful letter. Touches my heart.

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