Monday, July 17, 2017

Microblog Monday - What's been happening

So here is some of the stuff that's been happening.

1) We went on the first full family road trip vacation with my little family of three, my father, and my siblings and their families that we have done since my siblings and I were in the back seat of the station wagon.
"He touched me!!!"
"Stop hitting yourself!"

It was fun.
It was "interesting."

My sibs and I have different travel styles. Mine is somewhere between plan everything--even your bathroom trips and let's just wander and see what comes. It was...interesting.

2) My uncle passed away.
Since I wrote about how he was dying in January--I have to say that this has been incredible that he held out for so long. He was 96. How could I expect him to live more.

I know this. And I am grieving. Grieving for my aunt who is alone. Grieving because I'll never hear a piece of classical music and not think of him. It hurts.

3) D and I are getting better.

I wouldn't classify us as fixed, but we are touching each other. We are talking and not yelling. We are sending Lotus out to watch TV and talking out our differences instead of yelling or freezing each other out. There is ground to recover but I am smiling more. I am reaching out to touch him more.

And more to come.


  1. I'm sorry you lost your uncle. 96 is amazing - but of course, we always want those we love to be with us just a little longer. Can I say though that one day you'll hear a piece of classical music, think of him, and smile. But whilst it hurts, I'm thinking of you.
    I don't think I could travel with my siblings, so well done!
    #3 sounded good. Smiling more, and reaching out to touch him - you'll get it back. I'm pleased for you.

  2. Looks like a lot has been happening lately in your life :)
    Your are travelling geographies literally and covering the distance that I presume has come between you and D .

    Sending out love to you and your aunt . Your uncle am sure lived a long eventful fulfilling life and now perhaps as you grieve his memories will keep his presence alive .

    Take care :)

  3. Sending thoughts of encouragement and admiration.

  4. 96... What a life, though I'm sure the loss is hard. I'm smiling over your road trip experience, because I'm the same planner you are and my family is not. ;)

  5. Isn't there something full-circle about taking a family trip and being the adult in the front seat, addressing the kiddie things you used to say/do in the back seat?

    I'm sorry to hear about the passing of your classical-music loving uncle, and his wife who is figuring out her new normal. Abiding with you.

    Continued good wishes for you and D. May the reconnecting continue.

  6. I am so sorry about your uncle.

    So... is interesting good? As in, would you do it again in the future?